Tuesday, December 09, 2008

Trying to breathe

I'm stressed tonight.  Not because of work.  More because I'm trying to work through my issues of being an introvert in an extrovert world -- and how I am perceived by others.
You see, I've been told numerous times that I am perceived to be unapproachable & intimidating....often from people at church.  I'm weary, stressed, discouraged. I'm weary of the drama that my personality creates.  Introverts are a misunderstood breed.  We are a minority -- only 25% of all people are introverts. 

On a brighter note:  My job is going MUCH better.
I'm off to reduce some stress by playing my guitar.

Guitar hero that is.


  1. Cheri, I can very much relate to you, I feel a lot like I'm an introvert in an extrovert world. My nursing class did a project one day and we had to seperate into groups, me and 2 other girls out of 50 people were the only introverts! Jeesh. And yes we're misunderstood at times. I've been called stuck up and that I look sad and never smile. Whatev! I think you are friendly and a comfort to be around! Love ya!

  2. Oh mom, are people still saying that...I think it's all a big joke, because if those extraverts would take there sweet time and stop being the center of attention and just get to know people around them...well they would find that introverts, are sweet in nature, good listners, and not to mention throw some of the sweetest parties EVER :) I LOVE YOU!!! oh not to mention i think you've come along way baby ;)

  3. I think you're pretty cool, approchable, loving, caring, "a great listener", encouraging and just the bestest friend ever. (Not sure about those other peeps who dont REALLY know you) Bah !

  4. Cheri...I find you to be a delight...Cara said it all...what nice words (especially from someone who knows you so intimately!) When people tell you that you're unapproachable it's usually a reflection of their own inadequacy...it's about their inability to relate. You might be surprised to find out that I fall one degree to the introvert side of center myself. Have you found me to be an idiot in the food court at church? Many have...I don't know how to do "small talk" with people. Unless there's an agenda...I don't know how to drive a conversation...and...I love to spend time alone...Your not weird...keep trying...you're doing a good job!

  5. As a lurker,de-lurking I have to say I am very suprised to hear that. Unless you are totally different in real life than here, I can not see how anyone could say you are unapproachable and intimidating.
    You seem very warm and welcoming. I say ignore them. LOL

  6. From your introvert mother, a 72 year old that has heard similar things all my life. I have felt unsure of myself all my life. . . . Have you ever considered that some people might be jealous? That some people are not sure of themselves, so they attack? I admire you just the way you are. And honey It does get better, honest.


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